This section aims to provide technical guides and detailed information on various BDSM topics. Its purpose is to offer practical guidance and resources for exploring various disciplines, helping you with your own safe and informed practice.
I hope you find value on them, and help you in your own journey.
Ball stretching
- UberKinky’s Beginner’s Guide to Ball Stretching: great starting point into ball stretching, with the essentials, including the warming up.
- Jarod Johansen’s Ball Stretching Guide: best recommendation ever, this is THE guide for serious ball stretchers.
Fisting
- Fisting (RedWolf): my tips and experiences regarding preparations, cleaning and etiquette in parties.
- Lubricants For Fisting (RedWolf): this article serves as a practical guide to lubricants for fisting, based on my experience. Its purpose is to help understand different types, their uses, and specific brands, ensuring informed choices for safe and enjoyable play.
- The Sacred Art of Fisting, by Larry R. Shockey (free PDF from handballacademy.org).
- Red Right: one of my referents in fisting since I started in fisting, with a website with great information to understand the ass anantomy, the progression in fisting, as well as many tips to have even more intense sessions.
- FistRik’s fisting guide: information, parties and best places in Europe for fisting (and rated). It’s a great website with everything about fisting.
- Fiattor’s Handballing: some nice information about cleaning, common questions, and some events and organizations in the US. A bit outdated and some links don’t work, but still worth to give a look.
- J-Lube FAQ: everything you need to know around this slippery lubricant, with best tips on how to do the best mixing.
M/s
- 8 sub mindsets model (RedWolf): my view on the type of mindsets I have experienced myself as sub/slave, and seen in others as well. Treat it as an opinion.
- My 10 steps to prepare a session (RedWolf): plans are rarely followed, but having a plan allows peace of mind as things are ready at hand, and still bring the flexibility and adaptability required to build something together with the play partner.
- The Kink Mentoring Archives, by Papa Tony: great collection of BDSM resources, including mentoring, safewords, consent, abuse, sub drop / dom drop,…
- Hot Boots: this is a site for men into boots, with information about types of boots, how to best store them, polish, lace them…
Rope bondage
- TheDuchy: rope bondage tutorials, with free content but also offering a range of membership levels that give access to videos and even contact channel to learn directly from Lazarus Redmayne and his wife.
- Rope365: compendium of ideas to learn, practice and explore rope bondage. One idea per day, organised in a gradual learning approach.
- Shibari: rope choice and care
Sounding
- Kinky self pleasures: stretching and sounding (RedWolf): I added here my personal experiences about sounding, on top of the great guides also in this section.
- Types of metal urethral sounds (from MedicalToys.com): great resource about the difference between Van Buren, Pratts, Hegar and Bakes sounds.
- Sound Play (from the medical play library in MedicalToys.com): great guide to do sound play with safety.
Temperature Play
- Dripping with care – learn about BDSM wax play: great guide to wax play. Just as I learned with my Master, use always paraffin as it has low melting point: paraffin around 50°, bee wax around 60° and stearin from 80°.
