Table of contents

I’m adding in this section my own experiences and opinions for the different ‘disciplines’ and kinks I enjoy, as well as adding those experiences of other kinksters that have inspired me and helped me grow.

I hope you find value on them, and help you in your own journey.

Ball stretching

Fisting

  • Fisting (RedWolf): my tips and experiences regarding preparations, cleaning and etiquette in parties
  • The Sacred Art of Fisting, by Larry R. Shockey (free PDF from handballacademy.org)
  • Red Right: one of my referents in fisting since I started in fisting, with a website with great information to understand the ass anantomy, the progression in fisting, as well as many tips to have even more intense sessions
  • FistRik’s fisting guide: information, parties and best places in Europe for fisting (and rated). It’s a great website with everything about fisting
  • Fiattor’s Handballing: some nice information about cleaning, common questions, and some events and organizations in the US. A bit outdated and some links don’t work, but still worth to give a look
  • J-Lube FAQ: everything you need to know around this slippery lubricant, with best tips on how to do the best mixing

M/s

  • 8 sub mindsets model (RedWolf): my view on the type of mindsets I have experienced myself as sub/slave, and seen in others as well. Treat it as an opinion
  • My 10 steps to prepare a session (RedWolf): plans are rarely followed, but having a plan allows peace of mind as things are ready at hand, and still bring the flexibility and adaptability required to build something together with the play partner.
  • The Kink Mentoring Archives, by Papa Tony: great collection of BDSM resources, including mentoring, safewords, consent, abuse, sub drop / dom drop,…
  • Hot Boots: this is a site for men into boots, with information about types of boots, how to best store them, polish, lace them…
  • Dripping with care – learn about BDSM wax play: great guide to wax play. Just as I learned with my Master, use always paraffin as it has low melting point: paraffin around 50°, bee wax around 60° and stearin from 80°

Rope bondage

  • TheDuchy: rope bondage tutorials, with free content but also offering a range of membership levels that give access to videos and even contact channel to learn directly from Lazarus Redmayne and his wife
  • Rope365: compendium of ideas to learn, practice and explore rope bondage. One idea per day, organised in a gradual learning approach
  • Shibari: rope choice and care

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