Blog

Welcome to a personal exploration of my path in kink, where I share the insights and experiences that shape my own journey. Here, you’ll discover a chronological account of my evolution, starting from key moments like Folsom Berlin in 2006, through earning my collar, and continuing with reflections on various experiences in the BDSM community.

November 17, 2019
November 17, 2019
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Conditioning with (not only) sounds

Sounds are very powerful. With some repeated conditioning, you can create an association to a sound, anticipating a specific reward or a punishment that will cause the trained conditioned response: maybe fear to the corrective punishment, maybe pleasure with an immediate heat down there
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November 12, 2019
November 12, 2019
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Switching: being a Master and a slave

My slave is excited and a bit scared as well. In a few weeks my Master is coming to town, and I will be a devoted slave to my Master, and at the same time the Master of my slave. Are you already seeing the challenges that can come, and the different tortuous scenes that might develop during those days? What happens when your Sir is a switch? What if as slave, the Master of your Sir commands you to use your Sir as furniture? Would it be fair to get retaliation after?
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August 26, 2019
August 26, 2019
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The vetting interview: wavelength, sub mindset, fantasies, expectations and trust

Here I was, going for a beer close to the boy's place, carrying all stuff instead of following my rule of making a pre-scene meeting at a pub or a coffee shop in the city centre. I like to call the pre-scene meeting 'the interview'. And I find it necessary, as it helps not having to interrupt the atmosphere during a session for things that can be discussed and agreed before.
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February 27, 2019
February 27, 2019
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Serving my Master at Antwerp’s Leather Pride

Still flying from last weekend’s trip in Antwerp. The Leather & Fetish Pride Belgium has just finished, it’s been the first event I have attended as a collared slave, enjoying the atmosphere while making my best in serving my Master, a weekend of 24x7 that allowed me to enjoy both the Darklands and the fabulous The Boots. I’ve been happily diving in the subspace the whole weekend!
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October 2, 2018
October 2, 2018
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Using ‘Sir’ or not using ‘Sir’…

Until July’s trip to London, and for over a year, when chatting or sending text messages to Doms that I was grateful for the fun in a past session, for their kindness or just for being good friends, I was ending the sentences with the 'Sir' tail. Not pretending to auto-assign me as their boy, but I just started adding this in chat as an appreciation. It was the way I just started using to set clearly the kinky context when talking, moving from my ‘daily me’ into the ‘kinky me’.
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August 22, 2018
August 22, 2018
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Kinky London: the bondage and spank workshop

This workshop had the purpose of showing how knowing well a few simple knots leads into a great rope scene. Intricate shibari is an art and visually very exciting, however in sex play where you need to keep the engine running and the sexual arousal can disappear if not maintained well, it’s more effective for the scene to keep it simple and quick rather than trying to make something complex that takes long time to be made.
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