For an autistic mind, dominating isn't a contradiction, but a search for intensity and structure. Yet, stepping into the Master role forced me to confront established archetypes of what a leatherman "should be."
I understand my slave side as a therapeutic space for sensory decompression. In this post, I leave my personal guide: a series of tools to negotiate with a Master without losing the essence of the relationship.
In 2024, the official confirmation arrived that I am autistic, a piece that explains why my way of living BDSM is deeply connected to my neurodivergence. Bringing this to the blog is vital because BDSM is about relationship, connection, and social communication; that is why this diagnosis marks an important turning point here, framing everything I share in a completely new context.
Temperature play, particularly cold play, is a versatile and impactful element within M/s dynamics. It offers a spectrum from subtle discomfort to intense sensation without requiring specialized equipment. Starting with cold elements like ice or chilled objects is recommended due to their milder nature.
Nowadays session-oriented events are less prevalent than social-oriented events. It’s not that there are less session-oriented events now, but that there has been a greater increase in the number of events that don’t include play spaces, so I'm finding that social-events are much more prevalent in the kinky scene when compared to the decade of 2000s.
I have already shared that I earned my collar in January 2019, an important moment in my life which was followed by a celebration in Antwerp. But what next? What happens when switching from the slave mindset into the collared slave one? And indeed, why I made that step in that moment with my Master?